[LostinLove]

I have a fren who has recently been acting strange. She was very bubbly, outgoing, cheerful and happy. I have noticed a drastic change in her personality and was beginning to wonder how someone could just change so dramactically. So I begain snooping around and asking other frens what happened recently to her to make her change so much. Other frens had told me that she had recently broke up with her bf and now regretting ever breaking up with him. The bf no longer wants to patch things so shes very upset. During this time I had noticed that she was wearing long sleeve shirts and being very standoffish. I had seen her at hawker stall after work and approached her, to my shock I saw deep cuts on her arm. She saw me and quickly crossed her arms trying to hide the cuts. These werent normal cuts, they were straight cuts across her arm, ALOT of cuts too. I saw them and quickly disregarded like I didnt see them. The next day at work still wearing long sleeves the blood from fresh cut was seeping thru her shirt on her arms. I pulled her aside and asked her what that was all about. She told me that I dont need to know cuz none of my business. I'm kinda afraid to do anything because as you know many rumors spread around office and I dont want to inflame something especially in the office. I dont want this girl to have bad impression in the office cuz it will definately change her image with her collegues.

What kind of condition is this??? Mental/Emotional....Does this require medication.

Should I be worried??? Should I tell someone about it??? Should I approach her again???

I'm beginning to wonder if this is the "cutting" girls/boys do when they dont know how to deal with their problems. Is it???

[feverinred]

Originally Posted by LostinLove

Should I be worried??? Should I tell someone about it??? Should I approach her again???

I'm beginning to wonder if this is the "cutting" girls/boys do when they dont know how to deal with their problems. Is it???

Yes be worried. Yes you should probably tell some people who will b able to help her. Yes you should approach her again. And yes that's the kind of cutting which recently makes the news.

What she needs is help now, though she may refuse the help. Talk to her and convince her that she's not alone and there are people out there who is able to help her and be with her. Be sure to get people to assist you in helping her, maybe her close friends?

What's sure is that you cant ignore this... it may get too serious eventually.

[nolife89]

ya should talk to her and find out more and help her.


and this kind of cutting, really common among sec sch girls these days. really silly

[bcuzofu]

yar you definetely should talk to her and tell someone that she is real close to..maybe her families member or whoever...

I ever heard taht sometimes they addictive to cutting themselves... so must cut all those habit away... hope you can help her...

all the best... need help just let me knowok..

[downfall22]

wow... they still practise this?! hahaha.

tell the ex bf if u can... ask him to tell her to stop...

[Bianca]

depression...cuttng is one form of relief that many teenagers sought.. but I have a feeling your friend is older than that.

Ask her to seek help. Initial cuts could only be means to try to obliterate emotional pain, but subsequent cuts could lead to severe consequences i.e. wrist slashes.

[peirong]

ya. some people cuts is to get attention from others. hope that, they will able to concern her? i think you better do something about it. i know some of my friends that mostly cut their wrist is because of r/s stuffs..and it can get really serious.

[zackling]

LostinLove, it sounds like your female friend seems to be suffering from either severe depressions due to her recent breakup with her bf or she's really out of her mind. In this case, your friend will be classified as attempting suicidal thoughts or she's a mutilator.. meaning someone who will just cut herself whenever she's unhappy..initial cuts is a sort of reliefs for her.. but the more cuts she got.. means that she's hook onto it.. the last cut.. everyone will know is the fatal point.. her wrist.. STOP HER Before is TOO LATE.. it will end her life..

[busy_shim]

tink she's is dwn wif depression... i almost dwn wif depression its terrible.. wat needed here is help.. and she need to speak out to. even she dun i tink reali need to "force" her to tok .. but prepare tissue.. she confirm will cry.. coz my boss & colleague "forced" me to speak out... and i burst out cryin and telling them.. .. if not u got to bring her to some help from doctor. .. quick action b4 its too late

[raidenCsv]

she cut her arm to distract her sadness over breakup. i suggest you help her recover and tell her to DEAL WITH IT. she may be in deep depression or cutting her self to lower her sadness.

if she can accept it, she should know how to let it go.

worst come to worst, send her for counselling? not easy to do but for a friend, will you do it?

good luck.

[skor]

Originally Posted by LostinLove

The next day at work still wearing long sleeves the blood from fresh cut was seeping thru her shirt on her arms.

wah..... she cut herself during working time also....? then if blood was seeping through.... should be obvious to alot of ppl even her boss.......

[LostinLove]

It seems silly to me that a person would go that far to hurt themselves and keep all their feelings inside. My fren knows that I saw her arms. Even if I approach her she may feel like I'm interferring with her problems making all the more worse for her especially in the workplace environment. Where do I go to ask for her help?? Is there some sort of program that I can possibly refer her to?? I heard that if she needs a shrink(a professional psychiatrist)it will cost big money because insurance doesnt cover.

[virgoqing]

cutting = to worry....

must help her kick away this addiction.. maybe u should try to scold until she wake up? but she might be very angry with u for interfering ... but after she woke up.. shd be ok liao.. cos she will know tt u truely care for her...

[et3rnity84]

i believe ya friend is in her teens?! probably sec 1 - 5, meaning 17's e max age..

u shd be worried.. teens are easily opened up if u engage in talks with them, and make them realised the meaning of life and why she shouldn't be doing this..

[LostinLove]

Originally Posted by et3rnity84

i believe ya friend is in her teens?! probably sec 1 - 5, meaning 17's e max age..

u shd be worried.. teens are easily opened up if u engage in talks with them, and make them realised the meaning of life and why she shouldn't be doing this..

So this Cutting usually targets the teens. Whoa thats new cuz this girl is 23yo.