[blueblack]

My good friend partner had been fighting brain n liver cancer for a year was finally given with 2 more months to live. Spend 200k of medical treatment n endless suffering... n she was glad it going to end soon no need to suffer anymore.

I wonder what she just said was real and had accepted peace with god to stop all suffering.

I am lost for word now... how to console him for his partner and her wat to say.. :| :| :|

[cloud]

Hmm... sorry i am a little loss... Your friend is the husband or the wife? And that chemo and everything failed to work?

[skor]

since she have said it.... up to her wish...

[blueblack]

yes the man, stay together for many yrs but not married.
chemo, rad n trial treatment all fail.

[cloud]

Since she is already in peace, probably she is not the problem in issue. Maybe get to talk to the partner and tell him to stay strong and make the best out of everyday they are togather till the day she leaves the world? This is the best thing and the only thing he can do for her for now.

[Swerve]

I am really sorry to hear that :|

My Dad went through stage 4 cancer as well but thankfully managed to recover. So I can kind of understand how your friend feels.

All you can really do for them now is be there. Help in whatever way that you can and most importantly, encourage him to talk about it. It helps us deal with difficult situations and eventually...to move on.

Good luck with that and be strong for your friend k? I'll say a little prayer for them, maybe you should too.

Take it easy man.

[Hoopslife]

I totally understand. I have seen my uncle from a healthy and fit looking middle age man to a skinny and sick and fraglie man that need his wife inorder to just even go to the toilet, he is suffering from bone cancer....the words and feelings is really hard to describe. My parents and i whom went to see my uncle, were pretty upset and we did cry quietly in the living room, don't want to cry infront of him cause he is sensitive so it's better we appear strong infront of him...went through alot of treatment, that's why he is so skinny, and medication, vomiting, heard from aunt that he is having the pain in the middle of the night. Need alot of the morphine to stop the pain...but that is pretty addictive like drug that once dependence on it, no more working liao so i told my aunt not to let my uncle depend on it unless really in pain that he cannot stand then take. Even doctors suggest that too.

Unfortunately,he died in June this year. It was a suddenly departure anyway. I think if a person who is battling with a serious illness, one are able to see things lightly is the best way to let them go like that, in peace. As for my uncle, he really doesn't want to depart, because of my aunt and my niece, only child. It's sad but sometimes, when the time comes for one to go, there is nothing that can stop it, not even the greatest love nor concern for the family could even stop death from coming.

Keep them in high spirit and bright mood. They are weary and upset because of this cancer. Say other things to shift their attention, even for alittle while from their sickness, you know just to cheer them up alittle bit more. Time is precious. Do what you can.

[|cE_BerG]

god already a path for each of us when we are born. we have to accept that.early departure means end of suffering in this life early and get ready for the next. (hope this dnt sound too religious)

[lurv3]

i know how you feel because my best friend passed away due to leukemia. i still remember the last time i went to see her before my exams, she was getting better. but she left before my exams ended.

it would be hard to not think about it, because someone so dear to you has left like that.

but eventually, we still have to continue with our lives and i guess maybe you can console the guy that she'll be happy if he's happy.

[FaNtAsTaR]

... haiz ...

[Ning]

there arent words to console her..

u could write a song..

there was a ger in duman/rgs.. fighting with cancer.. her friends wrote her a song..

we did tt for my fren just before he died from brain cancer.. it did cheer him up abit everytime i played the guitar and my frens sang..

pls dun tell them "god has a plan.."

its as good as telling a person in mourning.. pls dun be sad.

bring her to places shes never seen before.. if not, lend ur fren some money to bring her to those romantic places tt she had always wanted to go.. and do things she wants to do..

[Adelphia]

stay by her side, give her the strength..

[floorfill@]

hope our fren can defeat the illness and recovered.

life is really fragile...we dun know what is installed for us tommorow..

[kianleongz]

Yea this kinda thing.. very sad 1...
life this kinda thing.. hard to predict 1..
i got a friend ... he was all along very fit
and 1 day he went to hospital checkup for some minor headach things
and found out he has blood cancer .. since then...
lying in the hospital til end of the mth he pass away...
damn sad..

[icannot]

Sorry to hear about what happen...like others said...do the things for your fren and her gf...dont have to Console him...sometimes, words are no longer necessary. What matter is being there for him....

I try to place myself in your shoes and think about what i will do if I were you...It may sound absurb but being a optimist, i tend to believe in miracles.

Have you ever heard of ppl who are terminally ill and given weeks or months to live but live beyond 1 yr, 3 yrs, 5 yrs?

There are actually quite a few of these stories out there...let them know about it. Let them know that miracles do exist...this will give the patient some hope, some will to fight on...

At the end of the day...its her will to stay alive that is important...When the chips are down, hope might be the only solution....

And hope comes from the belief that miracles do exist....