[liangzhi]

actualli i just want to pour out everything i feel in my heart regardin family probs and my rls with my ex.

u know i did sort of write a letter recently summarising everything about our r/s..what i learn..enjoy and regretted.... i also promised her i would not contact her only unless she contact me when she got problems.. it sounds very ' wei da ' ...but i didn do that. every now and than a few days interval i would somehow contact her.. i cnt tk it.. there was once there was a gala dinner in our school.. than the old boys were back too.. and this guy by the name lp was famous for his ' pervertness ' ... when we werre seated and served by a ten course dinner... he was the joker u see.. every gal walkin past and he would analyze the figure. than my ex happens to walk past. so he did analyze...the whole table kept quiet as they know i still like my ex but tt fat ass didn know.. some more the fat ass were kinda fwens with my ex... than i was quite angry..durin e photo takin..tt fat ass kinda took advan. with my ex.. puttin his hand over her shoulder.. tickling her...pulling her hair.. i was furious but couldn do anything in the end i run away alone to a park. the problem is every now and than when i think back of what happen durin e dinner.. and e fact i cnt contact her.. i feel very locked up...than whenever i feel farkin low cuz of family probs.. i just feel like lettin her know everytning. sometimes she ll hear.. but sometimes for eg jujst now.. she said she was busy... cuz her hp didn have caller id.. she donno who called her.. i called her.. she pick up the phone with much anticipation " hello !" but when hear my voice.. she kept quiet.. i feel very sad about all these.. anybody got any solutions or anythin i can said to her to improve anything or do something ? pls reply asap. thank.

[kurama]

hi liangzhi. I checked out some of your previous posts.

my 2 cents is that you should the best thing you can do: which is to work on improving yourself, and work on helping others where you can. I know that you are in pain, but the only person that can make yourself feel happy or upset is you (in a way), not your family nor your gf. See things positively and make the best of everything that comes along. This is something you can do!

Grow to be a more mature and beautiful person. Love your family and friends for who they are. We are only humans. Try to understand their situation, be the one to forgive their manners, and help them improve themselves in their time. For impatience gets you nowhere. If you are impatient, improve yourself first!

Things break if you are too focused and put too much pressure on them. Learn to let go. Give your problems a small rest if possible and you will find that when cool, things return to their proper shape. Avoid the places that you will be reminded of / meet with unhappy things temporarily. Spend some forgotten time with your studies and hobbies, with people you help. Make it a point that everyone who comes your way, goes away with a smile on their faces.

If you love your gf, make her happy then! What's the point of bothering her with your troubles here and there... It only makes things worse... Be a man! Write to her only when you are fully "cured" and you are sure you can take care of her / make her happy.

Good Luck!

[loner88]

sometimes.. its just hard to let go when you have spent so much with one loved ones.. but dun worry about this.. although you will never be able to forget about our ex completely, you will soon start to depend less on her, and wont have that desire to keep contacting her.. and, its best if you dun keep see-ing her.. it wun do you any good.. it just hurt your heart more.. i understand this feeling and had experienced it before.. even hearing my ex's voice on the phone now just made an extra pop in my heart and the aching starts, as though a knife just pireced through it..

[foolish_heart]

Don't call, don't bother to track her progress bro. If she wants to call you, she will. Otherwise, don't. It will just make things harder for ourselves.

[Hoopslife]

Obviously she found or had someone 'special' and has already move on while you are still 'on' for her.....i guess if it's really over, it is already over. Why not move on? Settle your family problems and after that, give yourself some air to breathe and take in what had happen for awhile, you need to take it slow mah and then slowly but not deliberately find a new love partner.

If keep on hanging around somemore around your ex, it will only cause you much misery. Since she is already the ex, meaning she is the past thing, even though you still contact her but still she is an ex, leave her and the past where it should be, leave it all behind and start afresh. Let it go, perhaps you'll be much happier this way.

[Crabbie]

It takes alot time to neglect her totally liangzhi , When 1 is apart from another you'll be very curious on how are they in a way that its either you wan him/her be happy or getting in a bad state . It only takes time to heal and for u to forget about her

[loner88]

Originally Posted by foolish_heart

Don't call, don't bother to track her progress bro. If she wants to call you, she will. Otherwise, don't. It will just make things harder for ourselves.

eh yaya.. i agree to this... when i broke with my ex i just have the tendacy to call her "and i did" but after awhile.. i feel that its just pointless cause whenever i hear her voice. just hurts me.. and sometimes i even have the feeling she dun want to talk to me.. worst still..

Originally Posted by Hoopslife

Obviously she found or had someone 'special' and has already move on while you are still 'on' for her.....i guess if it's really over, it is already over.
Let it go, perhaps you'll be much happier this way.

sometimes.. its just hard to let go.... well.. i guess thats life

[Hoopslife]

Originally Posted by loner88

sometimes.. its just hard to let go.... well.. i guess thats life

Still one has to, inorder to gain back sanity i suppose. Life isn't lived well and with its own meaning if one always dwell on the past and not do something inorder to search for another happiness in the future.....it will be unfair to oneself. If only time can take one back and rewrite history or else, either one had to try to give up or else cross finger and heart and wait for a miracle...sometimes it just won't come for 'chi xin de qing ren'.

[sologist]

if i can rewrite my history , i will def b more caring n shower more care if i could... IF LA haha everyone oso yearn

[loner88]

Originally Posted by Hoopslife

Still one has to, inorder to gain back sanity i suppose. Life isn't lived well and with its own meaning if one always dwell on the past and not do something inorder to search for another happiness in the future.....it will be unfair to oneself. If only time can take one back and rewrite history or else, either one had to try to give up or else cross finger and heart and wait for a miracle...sometimes it just won't come for 'chi xin de qing ren'.

yup yup.. i know... it doesnt pay to be a chi xin de qing ren in this life.. thats what i feel.. after being betrayed...

Originally Posted by sologist

if i can rewrite my history , i will def b more caring n shower more care if i could... IF LA haha everyone oso yearn

i would like to shower more love and care to.. i have many regrets.. many mistakes that i want to change...

[foolish_heart]

Same here, if I could go back, I'll definitely want to do better than I did the last time round.

[sologist]

too bad we cant but we can improve on the nxt 1

[foolish_heart]

Really enough of us to start a 失恋阵线自修联盟

[sologist]

hhaha shld we open a club hahaha =X sound stupid sia!

[mickey]

Well..like wat u mention, she is ur ex. Over liao..