[standbyme]

I have a friend (bear, my best friend ) n he tell me his experience. He got to know this gal, strawberry ( fake name ), during the 1st yr in poly, she went to the wrong class,she was suppose to be in DMT, but she went to DMR course, so he happen to know her,it was love at 1st sight, tat time he dun know tat she has a bf ord, so whenever he called her, always never chat long, jus formal chat. Btw both my friend n the gal are malaysian. Then my friend decided to change his course to go to DMA, so when the gal was yr 2, he was still yr 1. When he quit his course, they never contact for a while. Then when he was in yr 2 in his course, he decided to contact this gal again, onli now, he begin to know more about her, n how her ex bf treated her. Then begin to chat more often over the phone, often the gal would cal him at night, n they will chat very long, n the gal know all along tat he is chasing her. Even went out to see movie, n the fact tat becos tat time my friend is sick n the gal would call him to ask him how is he, tat really touch him.

Then thing started to change, all of a sudden, the gal stop calling my friend, n stop messaging him, when my friend msg her, she will not reply, then of course my friend will keep sending sms to ask y she never reply mah, logical.
Then my friend really cannot take it ord, he really miss her, so he decided to cal her, but instead, she scold him , she say she is not her bf or wat, why my friend send her sms like " wat ar u doing now" , " hav u eaten".. ect.She begin to be rude to my friend. Then from then onwards, whenever my friend cal her she will said she is busy n no time to tok, in a rude way. But my friend really miss her, due to tat, my friend become lost in live,. all of a sudden, he felt tat he has lost all his direction in life. Then when he tried to cal again, he was told on the other line tat she has change her line liao, n no longer using the number. But my friend still did not give up hope, he waited for 1 final chance to see her, she is graduating in 2003, so he went the sch hoping to hav a nice tok to her n get her hp number, but it turn out tat she say she now no more using hp and her bf dun like guys to tok to her, after tat then she left in a hurry.
But my friend saw her use her hp to call in the ceremony. Why she got to lie?
And after tat, he came to know tat this gal actually bluff him over the phone tat she is not using the number ani more.It was her voice, she change her voice to bluff my friend tat she is not using the number animore n my stupid friend actually believe her.

When he told me all this, i can't help but felt so angry to this gal. Why did she lie tat she no hp, why she got to ignore my friend until like tat? If she dun like my friend to send her such sms, why she dun jus send him a sms telling him not to send such sms anymore, instead, she wait until my friend cal her then scold him. Why all the sudden stop calling my friend? Don u all think tat she is inresponsible? if the gal got other guy chasing her or she has found a bf, why she dun tell my friend, for the fact tat she know my friend is chasing her? y she choose to run away from this problem n ignore him? Does she know how much hurt she cause my friend, by her ignorance? Until now, he still can't forgot her? it leave a scar in his heart permamently.I really feel sorry n sad for my friend. often i wonder, are all gals like this? if got problem then ignore n hack care? i am very feed up by this gal's hackcareness.This gal was too much.

wat do u guys or gals think?Why the gal got to do this?

[Devon]

Haiz... If Like That Can See That THe Ger Dun LikE Him Lo...
Maybe She ask OuT Of COncErn WHen he Was SIck...
iF She Like Him They lonG AgO TogeTheR Ler..
GEt On With LifE bahx...
GooD LuCk =)

[BeckHamHam]

i feel tat ur fren simply just mistaken her gd intentions as love le lors. From the start, he been harbouring thoughts of being with her. I dont feel tat she did reciprocrate to his actions lors.

As frens, when u are sick, u sure show concern de mahz.

Sometimes the way to reject a person is to totally ignore him or her.

Only one advise, FORGET THAT GIRL MAN.

[standbyme]

Originally Posted by BeckHamHam

i feel tat ur fren simply just mistaken her gd intentions as love le lors. From the start, he been harbouring thoughts of being with her. I dont feel tat she did reciprocrate to his actions lors.

As frens, when u are sick, u sure show concern de mahz.

Sometimes the way to reject a person is to totally ignore him or her.

Only one advise, FORGET THAT GIRL MAN.

This gal always send sms like " wat ar u doing now" to my friend at first, then after some time, when my friend also send her such sms, she scold him, i mean wat is this, u as a gal can send such sms to my friend n my friend can't do the same. N if u dun like my friend, y bother to ask wat ar u doing now in the 1st place? wat right have u got to know wat my friend is doing now? a bit contradicting wat, since she scold my friend who do he thing he is, always ask her wat is she doing now.
N if she jus tell him straight in the face, or hava nice tok, my friend won be in this state ord. But the gal choose to ignore n this is really irresponsible. And the fact tat she say my friend can chase after her, if she dun like him, y risk n call him every night in the begining? i believe tat she do like my friend initially, then ( from my source , i happen to find out ) other guys chase her, then she change heart n go wif someone else. This gal jus play wif my friend's feeling. Is it really tat difficult to jus say not to cal her animore, cos she got bf or she dun like my friend, rather than got to fake voice n bluff him?, dun reply his sms. This gal is so hyprocrite.

[BeckHamHam]

Originally Posted by standbyme

This gal always send sms like " wat ar u doing now" to my friend at first, then after some time, when my friend also send her such sms, she scold him, i mean wat is this, u as a gal can send such sms to my friend n my friend can't do the same. N if u dun like my friend, y bother to ask wat ar u doing now in the 1st place? wat right have u got to know wat my friend is doing now? a bit contradicting wat, since she scold my friend who do he thing he is, always ask her wat is she doing now.
N if she jus tell him straight in the face, or hava nice tok, my friend won be in this state ord. But the gal choose to ignore n this is really irresponsible. And the fact tat she say my friend can chase after her, if she dun like him, y risk n call him every night in the begining? i believe tat she do like my friend initially, then ( from my source , i happen to find out ) other guys chase her, then she change heart n go wif someone else. This gal jus play wif my friend's feeling. Is it really tat difficult to jus say not to cal her animore, cos she got bf or she dun like my friend, rather than got to fake voice n bluff him?, dun reply his sms. This gal is so hyprocrite.

haiyoh. go whack ur fren la. whack his senses back.

Since tat u know this girl up to no gd from the begining, didnt u hinted to ur pal about her? Ur pal blinded by love, but u are not. U should be more shrewd.

tat gal ya toking about has her own freedom on how she wanna treat her frens lors. Sounds like she only wants a fling lors. Like u said tat she is flirtatious. Dont ur pal know about it? Tell him no point wishing to be with her la. Wait long oso dont have.

actually Not up to u to be bothered with her. No use getting upset about some b*tch out there who deserved to be raped a million times in a million life. Let me tell u la. this girl will suffer in future or in near future de. U reap wat u sow. If u let someone down, u will get back the same treatment from someone else( sometimes even double the treatment).

Dont do anything to someone when u dont wan such a thign to happen to u.

[bluecoral]

hmm well sometimes ppl tends to give out wrong signals to others ...
so due to ur friend initial intention of courting tat girl, ur friend might have already mistaken her signal to love ba...

ur friend is taking this too serious tat is why he is suffering now...
it is not really the girl fault and u cannot really blame her except for the way she settle things...

If ur friend and her are not an item, then how can u blame her from liking others...
muz get the facts straight ma... even if a item also can change heart de leh ...

Ask ur friend to get a life and forget her ba ...
though i know i might seems very cruel in my words, but then this is reality ...
unreciprocated love is like tat ...

[chanant]

think ur friend must be whack....

y give up a tree for the whole forest.....

not say the ger is good to her....

[bloodcool]

imo, bear is taking this over seriously liao.. never got started already behaving like that, what if they got together and touchwood break up how? he could possibly be a potential stalker...

before u want to standby ur friend, see from another point ba...

of course, the next thing to do is tell bear to wake up... and i think u dun side him or what, else he will sink on further...

[standbyme]

Originally Posted by BeckHamHam

haiyoh. go whack ur fren la. whack his senses back.

Since tat u know this girl up to no gd from the begining, didnt u hinted to ur pal about her? Ur pal blinded by love, but u are not. U should be more shrewd.

tat gal ya toking about has her own freedom on how she wanna treat her frens lors. Sounds like she only wants a fling lors. Like u said tat she is flirtatious. Dont ur pal know about it? Tell him no point wishing to be with her la. Wait long oso dont have.

actually Not up to u to be bothered with her. No use getting upset about some b*tch out there who deserved to be raped a million times in a million life. Let me tell u la. this girl will suffer in future or in near future de. U reap wat u sow. If u let someone down, u will get back the same treatment from someone else( sometimes even double the treatment).

Dont do anything to someone when u dont wan such a thign to happen to u.

atcually tat time i still dunno about this gal well.... n some more he waited the gal treat him like then he told me about it..

[standbyme]

Originally Posted by bloodcool

imo, bear is taking this over seriously liao.. never got started already behaving like that, what if they got together and touchwood break up how? he could possibly be a potential stalker...

before u want to standby ur friend, see from another point ba...

of course, the next thing to do is tell bear to wake up... and i think u dun side him or what, else he will sink on further...

ya.. they ar never together, but the gal also should not play wif my friend's feeling wat, she should know the way to treat a friend if she dun like my friend, .... is was like she dun like my friend n they can't even be friend? wat sort of gal is this?

[standbyme]

Originally Posted by bluecoral

hmm well sometimes ppl tends to give out wrong signals to others ...
so due to ur friend initial intention of courting tat girl, ur friend might have already mistaken her signal to love ba...

ur friend is taking this too serious tat is why he is suffering now...
it is not really the girl fault and u cannot really blame her except for the way she settle things...

If ur friend and her are not an item, then how can u blame her from liking others...
muz get the facts straight ma... even if a item also can change heart de leh ...

Ask ur friend to get a life and forget her ba ...
though i know i might seems very cruel in my words, but then this is reality ...
unreciprocated love is like tat ...

But if the gal dun hav a slight feeling for my friend, why allow him to court her? why bother to call him everynight? n the fact tat my friend ask if he could chase her, she say of course can... Up till now do u still think this gal has no wrong in her?

[jnifur]

Originally Posted by standbyme

But if the gal dun hav a slight feeling for my friend, why allow him to court her? why bother to call him everynight? n the fact tat my friend ask if he could chase her, she say of course can... Up till now do u still think this gal has no wrong in her?

maybe to her, calling every nite doesnt mean she allowed him to court her.
Diff pple, diff std.

But the gal does need to explain properly also. Just disappear like that a bit guo fen.

but then, ur fren cant always think pple response positively means can be courted siah. It is not as if he asked her do u know I m fond of u and she said yes b4.

[BeckHamHam]

Originally Posted by standbyme

But if the gal dun hav a slight feeling for my friend, why allow him to court her? why bother to call him everynight? n the fact tat my friend ask if he could chase her, she say of course can... Up till now do u still think this gal has no wrong in her?

to me, talking to someone on the phone every night is common for single frens. Talking to that person on the phone all the time doesnt mean tat it will blossom into a r/s de lors. Maybe she feels tat it is normal lors.

She said that ur fren could chase her. Yesh, everyone has a fair chance of battle to win her heart. Of course, she will say such a thing de lors. AND, she DID not say that she will wait for him or she will be with him and stuff like this.

Even if a guy wanna chase me, i would still give him a chance to win my heart. if he fails to win my heart, then tats tooo bad lors.

Giving someone a chance to court u or to chase u is like a no strings attached kinda thingy. Doesnt mean that u MUST be with him or Must leave him.

Ok la. I did such a thing before la. im some bitch. A guy asked if he could chase me. Yeah, i gave him the chance to do so. He called me every now and then. send me home. asked me for dates. He gave up a lot of things to spend time with me. He spend a lot of money on me. shower me with love and concern. All along, i did not promise him anything tat i will be with him. I only gave him a chance to prove himself tat he really loves me and can be a gd bf. But somehow after 5 months, i felt that we arent compaitable and i had a liking for another fren who doesnt even care about me. Wat to do. when he asked if i can be his gf, i gave him the silent treatment too. he suffered for 2 yrs. Now he gotten over everything and we are gd frens.

Know u hate tat girl. But such things nd two hands to clap. I symphatize with ur fren. The problem isnt to think of why she treat him like this.The problem is how to help ur fren to stand up on his feet again.

[bluecoral]

Originally Posted by standbyme

But if the gal dun hav a slight feeling for my friend, why allow him to court her? why bother to call him everynight? n the fact tat my friend ask if he could chase her, she say of course can... Up till now do u still think this gal has no wrong in her?

haha why muz have have permission to court someone de meh ??
my god ... i think u are very immature to think like this ... or ur friend too...
sorry to offend but tat is the truth and the fact.
but seriously ur friend have no idea about girls/womens man ...

some girls juz like the feeling of being court or woo...
and did she really tell him tat she like him ?
even if like does not mean u will be together loh ...
a person can like alot of person, but whether they can be together is a total different thing...

i din say the girl is not in the wrong. if u read my first message clearly i did mentioned that she might be wrong in how she settle the issue...

anyway this kind of girls = huo shui ...
so juz ask ur friend to try to forget ... if not it will be juz one-sided love ba...

[bloodcool]

Originally Posted by standbyme

ya.. they ar never together, but the gal also should not play wif my friend's feeling wat, she should know the way to treat a friend if she dun like my friend, .... is was like she dun like my friend n they can't even be friend? wat sort of gal is this?

actually what type of gal she is, has nothing to do with u leh... and somemore now ur frd is not together with her... also nothing to do with him...

just because the way she treated ur friend is not the way that u expected or can accepted, doesn't give u the right to put her down...

like i've said before, no point putting her down or discussing how bad she is... helping ur frd to move on is the most impt thing to do...